Brides aren’t the only ones susceptible to stress before wedding. It hits the grooms pretty hard as well. The difference is that there’s an abundance of checks and balances, help forums, and circles of friends and family to help brides avoid and cope with wedding planning stress.
Conversely, grooms are rarely even warned that stress is on the way. We are here to put a change to that.
Yes, grooms, there is a lot of potential wedding stress out there and it’s time to teach you what to expect and how to handle it.
There is a lot of pressure for soon-to-be grooms and most of it will catch you completely off guard. You will be confused by the sudden onset of negative emotions which will exacerbate the problem. This often leads to misinterpreting things as regret, which is most definitely not how to deal with wedding stress.
Here is how to handle a few situations the right way.
- Time Is Your Friend
The majority of wedding stress can be sourced back to leaving things to the last minute. Rushed decisions lead to wrong decisions which is when things start to feel overwhelming.
Avoid all of this by making a plan well in advance of the big day. Make the major decisions first, and then follow a logical progression lf bite-sized choices. For example, choosing the theme first makes choosing the venue so much easier.
Set deadlines for yourself to make sure that things stay on track.
- Organize Your Thoughts
Fighting with your future spouse is the easiest way to cause undo stressful wedding planning. Most fiancé-based fights are caused by miscommunication.
When bringing an idea to the table, collect your thoughts first. Be ready with samples, photos, and even a plan B in case your first choice doesn’t pan out.
Delivering your ideas in this manner facilitates open, constructive discussions.
- Wear Her Shoes
As the groom, you have been planning this wedding since you purchased the ring and proposed. She, however, most likely has been planning this wedding since she was very young. Choose your battles wisely – asking you not to invite your mother warrants a disagreement, getting all fired up over white vs off-white flowers does not – and be willing to compromise.
If there are any major deal breakers it’s best to discuss them up front. Voicing them later on runs the risk of having to go back to the drawing board which is a huge layer of unnecessary stress.
- Take A Load Off
Working all day and wedding planning all night is the perfect recipe for a ball of stress. Regular date nights are perfect for dealing with wedding stress.
Taking your mind off things is no joke. Stepping away from it all allows you to hit that mental reset button, making tomorrow’s decisions much easier to make. It also reminds you why you are getting married in the first place. This type of intimacy is brilliant at renewing enthusiasm for wedding planning.
- You Time
When you feel stressed about wedding planning, remember to not neglect yourself. You are working. You are planning your wedding. You are working with your parents and future in-laws. You are going out on dates. This is enough to make anybody’s head spin.
Make sure to give yourself a break from time to time. Whatever your hobby is, indulge in it as a way to step away from the pressures of life. Running at full throttle with zero downtime can only lead to burnout.
- You Don’t Actually Feel Like That
Even the strongest of us will fall victim to wedding stress. But that’s just it. It’s stress, nothing more. But don’t be fooled, stress is stronger than you may think. It has the ability to change your psychology, chemistry, and physiology. In short, stress leads to more heightened levels of stress.
Perhaps the most significant way to deal with wedding stress is to take a deep breath and acknowledge it. Once you face stress it holds no power over you.
